But guess what?

These nighttime forays into fantasyland might mean a lot more psychologically than you're giving them credit for.

Dreams are your mind's way of exploring ideas, desires and fears that are too abstract, too disturbing or too overwhelming to think about during waking existence. And erotic dreams need not involve you in the hot tub with the Play..boy bunnies. They can be symbolic references that make statements about your emotional and erotic states without being graphic.

The purpose of these dreams is to mentally act out fantasy thoughts so you're not repressing them any longer. It's extremely healthy, and necessary. It's like your mind emptying out the trash.

While dream analysis is highly subjective and can only be done accurately by a licensed psychotherapist who counsels you on a regular basis, there are a few common symbolic threads in dreams that most everyone agrees on.

But who needs professional help when you got an article on the Internet to guide you, right?

Here's what the most common erotic dreams mean:

The woman with no face
In this scenario you dream of sex with an anonymous, faceless woman. She's perfectly sexy, smart, responsive, intuitive, sensitive, and familiar. But, no matter how hard you try, you cannot make out any of her features or her identity.

What it means: One meaning of this dream is simple: You desire uncomplicated sex in its most animalistic form. Essentially, your subconscious wants to use women for sex without any concern for their emotions or their identity.

Another explanation comes from the famed psychologist Carl Jung who says that dreams of a perfect faceless partner are your mind's way of telling you to embark on a journey of self-improvement. The faceless partner, he says, is really you, and the correct way to respond to this dream is by developing qualities in yourself that this "blank" partner possesses.

The surprise return of your ex
This dream finds you in bed with an old flame -- which might be rather shocking. But fear not, this oftentimes means not that you miss your old girlfriend, but that you're actually trying to rid them from your psyche.

What it means: For instance, if you recently met someone new, it might be your way of mentally preparing yourself for a new emotional attachment. By dreaming of your ex, your mind is trying to close the book on her.

The people appearing in your dreams represent a certain aspect of yourself. So this dream is telling you how you relate to whatever qualities your old girlfriend represents. Ask yourself how you would describe her to someone who has never met her. Is she generous, angry, or compassionate? Whatever the quality is, examine yourself and how you are relating to or using this quality in your life.

What to say in bed to make your woman orgasm

Women are verbal creatures at heart. That's why they read erotica, get hooked on soaps and love men with foreign accents. These things make them feel the same way we do when we spot a beautiful woman with huge breasts.

Though what excites them is drastically different from what arouses us, there's good news there. If you can paint a picture with a few choice words, you can turn them on. So it's in our best interests to learn to say the right things. With that in mind, here are the best things to say to a lady once you separate her from those pesky clothes.

"I want to make you feel good."
Simple, yet effective. A wonderful way to relax her and reassure her that she made the right decision going to bed with you. Drop this one right before or during foreplay for maximum effect.

"I love the sounds you make when you orgasm."
If you know your girl well and know that she does, indeed, orgasm, then this one is for you. And sometimes, even if she does orgasm, a woman feels awkward being vocal during sex. But most of us like a loud woman in bed, because it helps us to know when you're pleasing her. So you can encourage her to turn up the volume by telling her how much you enjoy it.

"You have such (a) hot [insert body part]."
Pick a favorite body part to mention, but make it one you know she's proud of. That way, there's no controversy. Women are notorious for being sensitive to clumsy compliments about their bodies, so tread carefully.

"I love the way you taste. I could stay down here for hours."
This reassures her that you like giving her oral sexand that there are no foul odors emanating from that area. You can say this one during a short break from oral sex or directly afterwards. It probably comes off best when said in a gravely, semi-exhausted voice.

"What are you imagining right now?"
This will encourage her to talk about her sexual desires and participate in setting the mood. The idea here is to let her release any bottled-up fantasies or requests that she would otherwise not mention.

"This feels so good. I love it when you [insert action here]."
Again, this is meant to boost her comfort level (and ego) with a little positive feedback. And, hey, if she knows you like something, perhaps she'll take note for future reference.Women are verbal creatures at heart. That's why they read erotica, get hooked on soaps and love men with foreign accents. These things make them feel the same way we do when we spot a beautiful woman with huge breasts.

Though what excites them is drastically different from what arouses us, there's good news there. If you can paint a picture with a few choice words, you can turn them on. So it's in our best interests to learn to say the right things. With that in mind, here are the best things to say to a lady once you separate her from those pesky clothes.

"I want to make you feel good."
Simple, yet effective. A wonderful way to relax her and reassure her that she made the right decision going to bed with you. Drop this one right before or during foreplay for maximum effect.

"I love the sounds you make when you orgasm."
If you know your girl well and know that she does, indeed, orgasm, then this one is for you. And sometimes, even if she does orgasm, a woman feels awkward being vocal during sex. But most of us like a loud woman in bed, because it helps us to know when you're pleasing her. So you can encourage her to turn up the volume by telling her how much you enjoy it.

"You have such (a) hot [insert body part]."
Pick a favorite body part to mention, but make it one you know she's proud of. That way, there's no controversy. Women are notorious for being sensitive to clumsy compliments about their bodies, so tread carefully.

"I love the way you taste. I could stay down here for hours."
This reassures her that you like giving her oral sex and that there are no foul odors emanating from that area. You can say this one during a short break from oral sex or directly afterwards. It probably comes off best when said in a gravely, semi-exhausted voice.

"What are you imagining right now?"
This will encourage her to talk about her sexual desires and participate in setting the mood. The idea here is to let her release any bottled-up fantasies or requests that she would otherwise not mention.

"This feels so good. I love it when you [insert action here]."
Again, this is meant to boost her comfort level (and ego) with a little positive feedback. And, hey, if she knows you like something, perhaps she'll take note for future reference.

Sex Position Tips

Sexual positions

* Make your man feel bigger inside you by placing your legs over his shoulders when having sex in the missionary position. Doing this shortens your vaginal canal, so he'll feel much longer. 

* Lie face-down on the bed and invite your man to lie on top of you, keeping his legs outside yours. The squeeze of your thighs on his penis will intensify sensation for him and for you.

* Sit on top of him with your feet tucked in tight either side of his bum. Now lean back as though you were riding a bucking bronco and enjoy the extra stimulation on the front wall of your vagina - an incredibly sensitive spot.

Food of love

Make oral sex better for you and for him with some ice cream. But don't just spoon it on - buy an ice cream cone, bite off the end and slip it over his still-soft penis. Now add the ice cream and take your time nibbling and licking until he's so hard that he breaks out of the cone! Who ever said ice cream was just for kids. 

Use ice-cream topping to supercharge your sex: you get to choose where you get licked by painting numbers on yourselves. Simply start at number one, and lick your way through to 

Chill some grapes in the freezer for at least 20 minutes. Use them to trace shapes on each other's bodies - the cold, wet sensation will send shivers up your spines.

Peel two thirds of a reasonably sized cucumber (make it organic, you don't want pesticides on your skin), and leave in the freezer for 40 minutes. Have your man rub it over your breasts and inner thighs, and use it to stimulate his nipples and testicles. Just watch as his very own 'cucumber' stands to attention!

27. Forget unwieldy ice cubes for adding sensation to oral sex - pop a mouthful of frozen berries or tropical fruits in your mouth instead. They taste great and are a lot easier to hold in your mouth while he's in your mouth.

Take turns pouring minty alcohol into your belly buttons, dipping your tongues and tracing shapes around each other's bodies. Now gently blow to increase evaporation, which will add to the stimulation. Hopefully before you're both the wrong side of squiffy and a funny shade of green. 

Forget the old sex and chocolate recommendations - cheese contains more phenylethylamine, the chemical that gives you that chocolate 'high'. So order a cheese platter after dinner and see if doesn't get you both in the mood.

If you still prefer chocolate, make it plain rather than milk. The dark stuff has a much higher cocoa solids content (and therefore more feel-good chemicals).

So how can you please her without spending a dog's age doing it? It's simple; follow the tips below to finish her off right.

1- Perform cunnilingus & use your fingers
When you lick her vagina and use your fingers to penetrate her, you're stimulating her clitoris and G-spot simultaneously -- a very smart move. If you can get the right rhythm down, it shouldn't be long before she screams out in delight. She should already be somewhat close to orgasm if you're at all competent at intercourse. Give it about 3 to 5 minutes.

If you were using a condom during sex, you may be a little apprehensive about putting your mouth down there and tasting latex. What you can do instead is use a polyurethane condom like Durex Avanti, which has no "after" taste.

If you're feeling too lazy or uncoordinated for oral sex, another way to achieve the same effect is to simply use your fingers alone. Curl up behind her so you are spooning, then reach around and massage her clitoris while gently thrusting her from behind with your deflating manhood.

2- Use sex toys
You can also break out a dildo or vibrator to bring her to orgasm once your penis is down for the count. If you're in a steady relationship, it's always a good idea to keep a vibrator under the bed or in a bedside drawer, so you can whip it out within a couple of seconds. Use the vibe in a circular motion on her clitoris and, when you start hearing some pleasant sounds emanating from her lips, repeat that motion.

Another sex toy you can use for this purpose is the tried-and-true penis ring. This device will keep your waning penis awake long enough to continue intercourse for a bit. You might not feel anything, but hey, this is about her.

3- Deliver her orgasm with your package
Sometimes after you have an orgasm, your penis inexplicably stays hard for a few minutes longer. You might as well dedicate these precious minutes to making her achieve orgasm.

After you ejaculate, wait about 30 seconds until your penis is no longer extra-sensitive to the touch. Then, change condoms, spread her legs, get back on top and plunge your semi-erect penis inside her again. This time around, let her completely control the motion. If she's close to reaching her orgasm, continue having intercourse until she finishes. If you can stay somewhat turned on, you might be able to bring it back to life completely. If not, keep going until it's obvious your erection isn't coming back.

4- Watch porn together
If you need a few moments to get your erection back, play with each other while watching a porn movie before having sex again.

To avoid an awkward moment, prepare the movie before you have sex without her knowing. This way, you don't have to get up, leave the room, look for a DVD, and inadvertently spoil the mood.

If you don't stock a wide collection of X-rated films, you can visit WantedList.com and peruse through a great selection of pornographic movies.

If not, then lots of cable systems have girl-friendly soft-core porn that comes on late at night. Innocently flip to one of these channels and rub her thigh while you're watching. If you can find the right movie, you're in business. Enjoy each other's bodies until you can perform again and finish the job.

5- Convince her to finish the job
If you believe she'll be up for it, let her know you'd really like it if she finished herself off while you watch. This is the perfect opportunity for you to see how she likes to be stimulated too. Watching her masturbate will show you how fast and how hard she likes to be touched.

bring her to orgasm in style

Face it; you can't consistently leave her hanging or, as karma goes, it will eventually happen to you. No matter how contented and exhausted you feel after an orgasm, do yourself proud and leave your woman wriggling in ecstasy.